We recently had a character spamming this site trying to flog his own trainings and at the same time displaying really poor manners and respect to Frank’s work. Amazingly he seems astonished that I would remove any link! I shared some of this on the AFPT FB page which elicited a number of student responses and its fair to say folks were not impressed.
This of course is not new behaviour and I talked with Frank about this whole desperate status seeking attitude that is very common in the world of NLP. These characters keep escalating their claims in life in the hope that people will take them seriously and don’t realise just how stupid they look. We welcome all manner of comments and debate on this site, BUT always with good manners and on topic to the subject of Frank’s classic work.
With status seeking characters, we usually we see a pivot from “bully – victim” in the behaviour and this is certainly the case with this latest new character, constantly moaning that’s he’s not being given attention. As expected he started e-mailed everyone and anyone he could imagine trying to “tell his story” with no consideration for wasting other people’s time.
Both myself and a number of professional colleagues have seen this many times over the years and I blogged on this a few years back, here
The common factor is hyper exaggeration which becomes quite bonkers! Nothing would surprise me and I wouldn’t be surprised to hear comments like
“You poisoned my village!”
“You stole my million pound scratch card”
and other such ludicrous attention seeking statements, ever more grandiose always about imagined injustice from days gone by. The same nonsense appears in status seeking NLP folks with claims like
“I was personally taught by trainer X”
“I trained the SAS”
Of course what they omitted to say is that they say in a group training and in most instances never had any 1 – 1 time with any trainer! Its all part of the desperate attention seeking behaviour and Frank called out the co creators of NLP who kept talking about Frank’s client experiences claiming them as their own. One of these was the “hairy Mary” story which Rusty Palmer (one of Frank’s students” called them out on in an NLP training. Frank sent the message “Don’t you have any fucking clients of your own to talk about?”
With these status seekers expect a flurry of verbose posts as these characters go on full rant online and to anyone left not yet blocking their calls!
Previously I successfully took out an injunction against one of these characters and my advice is always to avoid direct contact and let them escalate the attention seeking. I’ll be talking about this on the monthly online trainings and showing some footage of Frank working with one of these folks in a UK training.
